Do you want to be successful? Do Body Language

Have you seen some guys or girls have all the luck and usually get what they want in terms of their dream job or convincing their ex to come back without a problem?

Have you witnessed some guys or girls who always seem to have bad luck after bad luck and can’t create that right breaks to succeed in life?

Do you want to acquire that dream job after graduating from a college? Practice your body posture and learn to handle your own body language because well body-language has a lot do with it.


From wall street journal:

Can how you stand or sit affect your success? New research shows posture has a bigger impact on body and mind than previously believed. Striking a powerful, expansive pose actually changes a person’s hormones and behavior, just as if he or she had real power. Merely practicing a “power pose” for a few minutes in private—such as standing tall and leaning slightly forward with hands at one’s side, or leaning forward over a desk with hands planted firmly on its surface—led to higher levels of testosterone and lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol in study participants. These physiological changes are linked to better performance and more confident, assertive behavior, recent studies show.”

Striking a powerful pose can reduce symptoms of stress, says Dana Carney, an assistant professor at the Haas School of Business at the University of California, Berkeley. Subjects in a recent study she headed were guided for five minutes into either high-power poses or low-power postures, slumping or leaning back with arms or ankles crossed. They then delivered a videotaped speech before critical evaluators dressed in white lab coats and holding clipboards. Those who had practiced a power pose before the speech showed lower cortisol and fewer outward signs of stress, such as anxious smiles or biting a lip.”

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High-power: A, D, F Low-power: B, C, E

A: Expansively taking up a large swath of desktop real estate conveys power and confidence.

B: Crossing the arms and legs in a close-bodied posture expresses powerlessness, as if trying to take up as little space as possible.

C: Touching the neck, face or hand is a symptom of stress, suggesting anxiety or a lack of control.

D: Staking out a broad surface with the hands conveys a sense of control.

E: Folding arms in front of the chest suggests defensiveness.

F: Opening limbs expansively expresses power and dominance.

Source: University of California, Berkeley, Haas School of Business

View (power pose video) here.

Who hasn’t needed to bluff?  In business, sports, and romantic pursuit, it‘s often useful to seem more powerful or more vulnerable than you really are.   Sure, you can try  fl­ashing  a  smile or a frown or a  come-hither,  but  “we’ve  learned to control our  faces,”  says  David  Givens, director  of  the  Center  for  Nonverbal   Studies,   in  Spokane,  Washington.   And  so  people  have  learned  to  be  wary  of  them.   If  you  want   to  bluff convincingly—and  figure out  what  others are  really  thinking—you’ll  need to focus on another body part .

“Our shoulders are much less tutored,” says Givens.

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For  instance, the  shrug  is reflexive,  and because  it’s unfiltered by  the  scheming brain,   it’s  telling. This is because the shrug comes from your inner lizard.   And this lizard part of the brain knows how to show subordination—it crouches.

Opposite the cringe is what Givens calls “the anti-gravity sign.”  This is humans’ palm-down speaking gesture or the high-stand display of a dominant lizard.  “People in the military or business try  to  mimic  this  gesture  by  augmenting the shoulders and squaring  them with uniforms and  suits, ” says  Givens.

David Givens  NBS

Make your shoulders bigger, and you’ll look badder. And  once  you’re  done  being  big  and  bad,   perhaps  you’ll   take  a  second  to  reconnect with your  softer  side.   Just as there  are  evolutionarily programmed  signals  for  dominance  and  subservience,   there  are  hardwired  signals  of  love  (admit   it—these  signals  are  why  you’re  still reading this  entry).   You know about   the neck-revealing hair adjustment and the one-eyebrow-raised smoldering smile.   But did you know about pigeon toes?  Givens points to it as a sure sign of attraction.   Toes in means “come hither” and toes out—reminiscent   of a soldier at rest—means “not   today, maybe not   ever.”  Also  on  a  spectrum  from  inviting  to  denying  is  head angle:   Forehead  down,  eyes up  should  make  you recall  Lauren Bacall ’s  famous  come-hither  to  Humphrey  Bogart .   And  on  the  fl­ip  side,   chin  up   with  eyes  looking  down  is  bad,   bad  news—a sure  sign of disdain.

If  you’re  seeing  pigeon  toes  and  downward  forehead  along  with  the  vulnerable  lizard  shrug,   your  evening  is  looking  up .   All-together, you know what   it looks like? Well, it looks s exactly like Betty Boop.  That naughty minx.

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Givens  is  quick   to  point   out   that   not   only  can  you  learn  to  recognize  these  signs  in  their  natural   habitat   and  thus  know  things  you  might otherwise  not ,   but   you  can  learn  to  control   them  for  your  own  evil   purposes  (my  words,   not   his).   These  collected  signals  not   only  function  as subconscious  conduits of  information,  but   they  can  create  reciprocity,   too.

You  want   a  better  chance  with  that   special   someone  you  glimpsed  across  the  bar?  Get   your pigeon-toed,   forehead-tilting,   shoulder-shrugging groove on.  You might want to practice in the mirror first.

Forehead down

If you want to study some good body language, you can purchase David Given’s books that includes Love Signals and  Your Body at Work or his non-verbal dictionary is online at www.center-for-nonverbal-studies .org. -SjC

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