Have you seen some guys or girls have all the luck and usually get what they want in terms of their dream job or convincing their ex to come back without a problem?
Have you witnessed some guys or girls who always seem to have bad luck after bad luck and can’t create that right breaks to succeed in life?
Do you want to acquire that dream job after graduating from a college? Practice your body posture and learn to handle your own body language because well body-language has a lot do with it.
From wall street journal:
“Can how you stand or sit affect your success? New research shows posture has a bigger impact on body and mind than previously believed. Striking a powerful, expansive pose actually changes a person’s hormones and behavior, just as if he or she had real power. Merely practicing a “power pose” for a few minutes in private—such as standing tall and leaning slightly forward with hands at one’s side, or leaning forward over a desk with hands planted firmly on its surface—led to higher levels of testosterone and lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol in study participants. These physiological changes are linked to better performance and more confident, assertive behavior, recent studies show.”
“Striking a powerful pose can reduce symptoms of stress, says Dana Carney, an assistant professor at the Haas School of Business at the University of California, Berkeley. Subjects in a recent study she headed were guided for five minutes into either high-power poses or low-power postures, slumping or leaning back with arms or ankles crossed. They then delivered a videotaped speech before critical evaluators dressed in white lab coats and holding clipboards. Those who had practiced a power pose before the speech showed lower cortisol and fewer outward signs of stress, such as anxious smiles or biting a lip.”
A: Expansively taking up a large swath of desktop real estate conveys power and confidence.
B: Crossing the arms and legs in a close-bodied posture expresses powerlessness, as if trying to take up as little space as possible.
C: Touching the neck, face or hand is a symptom of stress, suggesting anxiety or a lack of control.
D: Staking out a broad surface with the hands conveys a sense of control.
E: Folding arms in front of the chest suggests defensiveness.
F: Opening limbs expansively expresses power and dominance.
Source: University of California, Berkeley, Haas School of Business
View (power pose video) here.
Who hasn’t needed to bluff? In business, sports, and romantic pursuit, it‘s often useful to seem more powerful or more vulnerable than you really are. Sure, you can try flashing a smile or a frown or a come-hither, but “we’ve learned to control our faces,” says David Givens, director of the Center for Nonverbal Studies, in Spokane, Washington. And so people have learned to be wary of them. If you want to bluff convincingly—and figure out what others are really thinking—you’ll need to focus on another body part .
“Our shoulders are much less tutored,” says Givens.
For instance, the shrug is reflexive, and because it’s unfiltered by the scheming brain, it’s telling. This is because the shrug comes from your inner lizard. And this lizard part of the brain knows how to show subordination—it crouches.
Opposite the cringe is what Givens calls “the anti-gravity sign.” This is humans’ palm-down speaking gesture or the high-stand display of a dominant lizard. “People in the military or business try to mimic this gesture by augmenting the shoulders and squaring them with uniforms and suits, ” says Givens.
Make your shoulders bigger, and you’ll look badder. And once you’re done being big and bad, perhaps you’ll take a second to reconnect with your softer side. Just as there are evolutionarily programmed signals for dominance and subservience, there are hardwired signals of love (admit it—these signals are why you’re still reading this entry). You know about the neck-revealing hair adjustment and the one-eyebrow-raised smoldering smile. But did you know about pigeon toes? Givens points to it as a sure sign of attraction. Toes in means “come hither” and toes out—reminiscent of a soldier at rest—means “not today, maybe not ever.” Also on a spectrum from inviting to denying is head angle: Forehead down, eyes up should make you recall Lauren Bacall ’s famous come-hither to Humphrey Bogart . And on the flip side, chin up with eyes looking down is bad, bad news—a sure sign of disdain.
If you’re seeing pigeon toes and downward forehead along with the vulnerable lizard shrug, your evening is looking up . All-together, you know what it looks like? Well, it looks s exactly like Betty Boop. That naughty minx.
Givens is quick to point out that not only can you learn to recognize these signs in their natural habitat and thus know things you might otherwise not , but you can learn to control them for your own evil purposes (my words, not his). These collected signals not only function as subconscious conduits of information, but they can create reciprocity, too.
You want a better chance with that special someone you glimpsed across the bar? Get your pigeon-toed, forehead-tilting, shoulder-shrugging groove on. You might want to practice in the mirror first.
If you want to study some good body language, you can purchase David Given’s books that includes Love Signals and Your Body at Work or his non-verbal dictionary is online at www.center-for-nonverbal-studies .org. -SjC