Online dating – Match.com

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In the 21st century, advancements in technology have allowed us to reach out to people in ways beyond phone calls. When it comes to finding love, time is of the essence due to hectic schedules. Due to the nature of people’s characteristics, shy people tend to waver towards online dating services to find their significant other since online dating eliminates that fearful face-to-face “rejection”. The percentages of success stories are debatable but many can assure you that their online relationship blossomed into a happy, fulfilling relationship that stood the test of time. With information strictly based on a few anonymous thousand members actively using Match.com, we can evaluate the pros and cons of online dating.

How can we benefit from Match.com?

Filtering through the unnecessary

Being a paid subscription service, Match.com does the task of matching people to your specific interests, filtering out people who aren’t suitable. Having a general ratio of 3:1 men to women, women have more options when it comes to being selective.

Profile matchup

Women and men can browse through a vast array of profiles to determine their needs. Men tend to lean toward attractive women with a thin build that includes an ideal hip to shoulder ratio. Women also do the same with appearances, but include other factors such as occupation, height, skills, and importantly the personal income.


Daily lifestyle

A day in the life of a typical Match.com subscriber will experience “winks” and attentive emails. For women, being able to weed out men that are not to their liking while having a plethora of available men, can give a euphoric sensation and addictive in nature.  Roughly for majority of people spend at least 3 to 5 hours or more daily emailing to instant messenging.

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What are the cons of being a Match.com member?

Frauds and liars

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For women, in the case that you appear to be well matched with people’s standards of beauty, it is wise to be cautious against first impressions. For example, should a man arrive in a Mercedes-Benz and flaunt his profession as a doctor/lawyer, he may most likely borrowed the vehicle and is expecting more than just a friendly meet up, especially if the date encounter is beyond the first date. Whether his occupation is truth or fiction, these men are likely looking for nothing beyond a night together. These men are often appear confident, fun to be around with, creating that illusion of a “fun” guy to hang out with.  Perception is not the reality in this case.

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Settling

The general population of average men on Match.com is those with little to no success. Finding the person they want to spend the rest of their life with can be difficult as what they lack in appearance and skills, they have to make up for in persistence behind the keyboard since it is the “resume” that women seek. These men lack the coveted “resume” or physical attractiveness to get an attention. Some men and women often then would settle with less than ideal mate they desire.


Expenses

In addition to the monthly service fee, driving 50-100 mile radius for dates, costs of dinners, comedy clubs, and museums all come into play. To impress a woman, changes in settings/venues are generally what lead to success. Also, add additinal costs to the costs of dating since decent guy or a girl usually has several other prospects lined up for multiple date opportunities. Typical cost for date outing after initial first coffee date meet-up after extensive emailing would range from anywhere between $50 to upwards of $250 dollars and up.

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Trust

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In normal dating scene, trust is the key to successful relationship. The online dating is a perpetual dating engine.  Serial daters have multiple prospects to choose from.  It is harder to develop that complete trust online especially for the younger subscribers since all members can check up on each other.  They can find out when the users were last logged on, etc.  To get to know a person, it takes time, and If the intimacy is involved after a few dates, it is more than likely either men or women will get emotionally invested more. Hence, feelings are involved and if the relationship doesn’t work out, someone will be hurt when serial daters are now dating other prospects. Some love this idea of trying out first and has no objections to it.  However, for the most part, trying out the goods first is not a standard choice although if you look at the statistics below, first date hookup/intimacy is astounding 33% using dating sites. In general, women of Match.com usually looking for a boy-friend.

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Based on what I know of Match.com, it is beneficial to those who are aware of the negative circumstances that can be attached to online dating. It would be recommended to embrace this as an additional tool of opportunity not as sole dating option, but to supplement along with normal dating rituals.  As a forewarning, this is probably not the best tool for a young woman (under 30) because they lack the knowledge and maturity level of what they would be ten years later. Also, new times call for new idioms. The Manti Te’o story appears more of a catfish story. The reference is to a certain kind of Internet dating hoax and comes from a 2010 documentary film and a new MTV reality series. The “catfishing” occurs after you meet someone on Match.com as well. If you failed to do homework, the person you meet who you like a lot can be someone who can be outright insane person (worse than a hoax) or less than ideal mate you desire.  Finally, average men should stay away from Match.com so that they can improve themselves first such as working on self-confidence, creating more income, and having a passion for life.  Only then, this online dating can be a supplement to finding a partner who can share your life with, not someone who can make you happy. You have to be happy first and love yourself 100% in order to be successful in love on-line or off-line.

Life is short, live your life with a purpose.  Don’t be the one in desperation to find someone because you feel you are lonely. Welcome your alone time. Think and figure out what your life goals are ASAP. Find something that YOU are passionate about and love will be there when you are not expecting – SjC

5 Responses to “Online dating – Match.com”

  1. Chris Todd January 10, 2013 at 11:26 pm Permalink

    I love the comment about living life with a purpose. Amen brother!
    I use to use craigslist, pof, okcupid and match.com to find woman. I had some good relationships to some forgettable relationships.
    If I decided to live my life with a purpose and let the woman join me/share, I would be married by now. I still don’t know what I want and this is the major barrier to long term relationship that would last.
    Great post!

  2. Kim February 17, 2013 at 5:21 pm Permalink

    Chris, I agree with you. I was member of match and for the most part, not a good experience for me. My other friends found long term relationship to being married so naturally I wanted to try it out, but it was not good. Most men like to date around and there isn’t a trust or commitment on here. I learned my lesson and if I would have found this website before signing up, I would have re adjusted my thinking.

  3. Christine February 23, 2013 at 5:58 pm Permalink

    I would like to add to this article. Watch out for serial daters who either hide their match profile and continues to email their prospects. Once they have what they want or not get what they want, they make their profile available again and starts the process all over again. It is truly disgusting and don’t get caught up on here thinking you will find that prince charming or princess charming. No one wants to have relationships to one man or woman on here. All they want is have a good time and next… If you want to have a good time, this is the place. However, if you want long term relationship, online dating is not a good starting point. You read it here, this information is from my own experiences. Just keep this mind …

  4. Nathan Clough May 19, 2013 at 1:36 am Permalink

    I’ve used or currently use a few of these online dating sites and to be honest they do not impress me. While I have gone on numerous dates I have never met anyone from these sites that said relationship material. Often times it would result in a date or two or three, lead to intimacy and we’d go our separate ways after a few more get “dates”. The sad reality is that some of these dating sites are nothing more than the online version of the bar and club scene where people are looking to just have fun and hook up. Not that I am saying there are not people on there seriously looking for a commitment, however the ones that are looking for a commitment tend to be the finicky ones or the divorcees with 2 or more children who want replacement fathers and husbands. While I still maintain a profile on a site I would much rather just meet someone and let it evolve naturally. In my experience the best way to find a date is go to the places where people you would want to date hang out and mingle.

  5. Jashue Santana March 10, 2014 at 2:20 pm Permalink

    The online dating is great for dating and hookups. Long term is not so sure.

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