In the 21st century, advancements in technology have allowed us to reach out to people in ways beyond phone calls. When it comes to finding love, time is of the essence due to hectic schedules. Due to the nature of people’s characteristics, shy people tend to waver towards online dating services to find their significant other since online dating eliminates that fearful face-to-face “rejection”. The percentages of success stories are debatable but many can assure you that their online relationship blossomed into a happy, fulfilling relationship that stood the test of time. With information strictly based on a few anonymous thousand members actively using Match.com, we can evaluate the pros and cons of online dating.
How can we benefit from Match.com?
Filtering through the unnecessary
Being a paid subscription service, Match.com does the task of matching people to your specific interests, filtering out people who aren’t suitable. Having a general ratio of 3:1 men to women, women have more options when it comes to being selective.
Women and men can browse through a vast array of profiles to determine their needs. Men tend to lean toward attractive women with a thin build that includes an ideal hip to shoulder ratio. Women also do the same with appearances, but include other factors such as occupation, height, skills, and importantly the personal income.
A day in the life of a typical Match.com subscriber will experience “winks” and attentive emails. For women, being able to weed out men that are not to their liking while having a plethora of available men, can give a euphoric sensation and addictive in nature. Roughly for majority of people spend at least 3 to 5 hours or more daily emailing to instant messenging.
What are the cons of being a Match.com member?
Frauds and liars
For women, in the case that you appear to be well matched with people’s standards of beauty, it is wise to be cautious against first impressions. For example, should a man arrive in a Mercedes-Benz and flaunt his profession as a doctor/lawyer, he may most likely borrowed the vehicle and is expecting more than just a friendly meet up, especially if the date encounter is beyond the first date. Whether his occupation is truth or fiction, these men are likely looking for nothing beyond a night together. These men are often appear confident, fun to be around with, creating that illusion of a “fun” guy to hang out with. Perception is not the reality in this case.
The general population of average men on Match.com is those with little to no success. Finding the person they want to spend the rest of their life with can be difficult as what they lack in appearance and skills, they have to make up for in persistence behind the keyboard since it is the “resume” that women seek. These men lack the coveted “resume” or physical attractiveness to get an attention. Some men and women often then would settle with less than ideal mate they desire.
In addition to the monthly service fee, driving 50-100 mile radius for dates, costs of dinners, comedy clubs, and museums all come into play. To impress a woman, changes in settings/venues are generally what lead to success. Also, add additinal costs to the costs of dating since decent guy or a girl usually has several other prospects lined up for multiple date opportunities. Typical cost for date outing after initial first coffee date meet-up after extensive emailing would range from anywhere between $50 to upwards of $250 dollars and up.
In normal dating scene, trust is the key to successful relationship. The online dating is a perpetual dating engine. Serial daters have multiple prospects to choose from. It is harder to develop that complete trust online especially for the younger subscribers since all members can check up on each other. They can find out when the users were last logged on, etc. To get to know a person, it takes time, and If the intimacy is involved after a few dates, it is more than likely either men or women will get emotionally invested more. Hence, feelings are involved and if the relationship doesn’t work out, someone will be hurt when serial daters are now dating other prospects. Some love this idea of trying out first and has no objections to it. However, for the most part, trying out the goods first is not a standard choice although if you look at the statistics below, first date hookup/intimacy is astounding 33% using dating sites. In general, women of Match.com usually looking for a boy-friend.
Based on what I know of Match.com, it is beneficial to those who are aware of the negative circumstances that can be attached to online dating. It would be recommended to embrace this as an additional tool of opportunity not as sole dating option, but to supplement along with normal dating rituals. As a forewarning, this is probably not the best tool for a young woman (under 30) because they lack the knowledge and maturity level of what they would be ten years later. Also, new times call for new idioms. The Manti Te’o story appears more of a catfish story. The reference is to a certain kind of Internet dating hoax and comes from a 2010 documentary film and a new MTV reality series. The “catfishing” occurs after you meet someone on Match.com as well. If you failed to do homework, the person you meet who you like a lot can be someone who can be outright insane person (worse than a hoax) or less than ideal mate you desire. Finally, average men should stay away from Match.com so that they can improve themselves first such as working on self-confidence, creating more income, and having a passion for life. Only then, this online dating can be a supplement to finding a partner who can share your life with, not someone who can make you happy. You have to be happy first and love yourself 100% in order to be successful in love on-line or off-line.
Life is short, live your life with a purpose. Don’t be the one in desperation to find someone because you feel you are lonely. Welcome your alone time. Think and figure out what your life goals are ASAP. Find something that YOU are passionate about and love will be there when you are not expecting – SjC