“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt
Question: Are you are too relying on external validation like praise from other people to feel good about yourself?
Answer: Instead, do start building stability within and a sort of inner spring that fuels your life with positive emotions no matter what other people say or do around you.
Which brings us to the next reason to take personal responsibility…?
There is a quantum leap in self-awareness between these two different statements:
- A car hit me.
- I was hit by a car.
One of those statements takes responsibility for what happened.
The other insinuates that your life is in the hands of the fates, and that you are never in control, and that nothing is your fault. You’ve seen these people pass the buck all the time. They’ll say things like “some moron cut me off driving and I trashed my car.” Not, “I wasn’t paying attention when I was driving and let some clown cut me off.” They’ll say, “The bubble headed waitress messed up my order.” Not “I changed my mind five times when the waitress was taking my order and it’s noisy in here and I didn’t make myself clear enough”. They’ll say, “There was a computer error”. Not “I typed it in wrong.”
Everything that happens to you is your fault. You had a car accident; you claim someone cut you off? It’s your fault- you should have been watching for that someone who cut you off. The waitress screwed up your order? It’s your fault for changing your order three times in a busy restaurant. There was a computer error? You should have verified it.
Even if someone literally hit your car out of the blue or the bubble-headed waitress was a moron who messed up your order, accept it as is. The phrase, “It is what it is”, remember this phrase and guess what, it happens to all of us. If we dwell on the blaming game, we cannot move forward. We will be always being stuck in a gear of blame and never able to develop our true capabilities.
If you are an obese person, there are two things you can do;
- Sit around and do nothing about it and blame your current circumstances.
- Realize, you need to work out and lose some of the pounds and taking action for it.
If you are unhappy with your current situation about wealth, there are two things you can do;
- Sit around and do nothing about it and blaming your parents’ lack of money.
- Realize, you need to figure out something to make some money by taking action such as finding the best education to land you the job that you will be comfortable for you. Read how to make money here.
It’s a difficult thing to do; stepping up to the plate and taking responsibility for the things that happen to you will set you free.
If you are unhappy about something, do something about it. Enroll in school, join a gym, read a book about how to invest, and so forth. If you just sit around and blaming the world how you are the victim of unfair life, you are going to stay there in a rut forever. -SjC