The sport of bodybuilding is probably the toughest sport to be involved in.
It is 7 days a week 24 hours a day, 365 days a year sport. You need to train, diet properly, rest well to grow, and you must look for any deficiencies in your physique since you are going to be judged on stage during your competition. It is also expensive sport with requiring full support from your family, friends and your significant other since it requires around the clock preparation.
“If you live with a parent who drinks, you may feel embarrassed, angry, sad, hurt, or any number of emotions. You may feel helpless: When parents promise to stop drinking, for example, it can end in frustration when they don’t keep their promises.
Problem drinking can change how families function. A parent may have trouble keeping a job and problems paying the bills. Older kids may have to take care of younger siblings.
Some parents with alcohol problems might mistreat or abuse their children emotionally or physically. Others may neglect their kids by not providing sufficient care and guidance. Parents with alcohol problems might also use other drugs.” – kidshealth.org
I have attended only less than two years of college; at both Montgomery County CC and Albright College. When I had to drop out of college and begin working full-time things had gotten rough around my house. As I was still living at home, I struggled with a bout of depression. With parents being an alcoholic and a worker that would barely be around; I would come home from work, bust my rear in the gym, and pay for all of my food/bills. Yet still, I was told I was wasting my time, that I wouldn’t amount to anything in this sport, that I would end up on the streets living a lifestyle like I do.
For the readers out there, depression isn’t just bad moods and occasional melancholy. It’s not just feeling down or sad, either. These feelings are normal in kids, especially during the teen years. Even when major disappointments and setbacks make people feel sad and angry, the negative feelings usually lessen with time.
But when a depressive state, or mood, lingers for a long time — weeks, months, or even longer — and limits a person’s ability to function normally, it can be diagnosed as depression.
Types of depression include: major depression, dysthymia, adjustment disorder with depressed mood, seasonal affective disorder, and bipolar disorder or manic depression. All of these can affect kids and teenagers.
I know I may sound like a baby, crying that nobody supports me; but as I said I like to think of myself as a deep internal thinker. These things truly affected me in a negative way. I like to think I am prospering through those times now however. I am trying to work on being a better person and not holding resentment for the emotional and verbal abuse; all while trying to prove the naysayers wrong.
I am Tyler Herz from small town Birdsboro, PA with fantastic stamina. I live and love like a whirlwind, possessing an insatiable appetite for all the pleasures of life. Although I love to have a good time, I can also work very hard. Blessed with prodigious energy, originality and single-mindedness, I have great potential to achieve my ambitions, becoming a champion.
Although I can be erratic and extreme, my drive and strength of purpose can sweep others off their feet, carrying them along in a whirlwind of enthusiasm. There’s little time for quiet reflection along the way but there will be plenty of excitement. This is because life rarely stands still for me; it’s an action-packed adventure with many surprises and opportunities. If I can put these opportunities to good use, I can become energetic campaigners for greater self-expression and for progress.
Skills: I am an aspiring bodybuilder and also great at cooking
Heroes: I would have to say Arnold Schwarzenegger. Arnold came to America with a single gym bag and vowed to conquer America. Arnold became 7 time champion (Mr.Olympia) and became a successful movie star. Also, then to top it off, he became governor of California. Read Arnold’s motto here.
Music: “No easy way out” both the original and the recent remake
- When I binge, I go crazy at Fujiyama Sushi&Steak house and dominate plates upon plates of sushi.
- I make a killer… protein packed lasagna. (Offseason only) packed with chicken, beef and of course the ever so decadent noodles!
- The movie I should be embarrassed to tell my friends I love, but am not is… Avatar. It may sound silly a big guy liking an animated movie. But I consider myself a deep internal thinker. When you analyze movies while you watch, you understand the true meaning behind them. I love movies that are about standing up to tyranny or an enemy and being proud of who you are.
- My favorite TV show of all-time is … Breaking Bad on AMC
- My favorite day of the week is… Sunday; it is usually a great day, packed with a hardcore, grueling leg workout. Followed by some tasty bodybuilding food; and a ton of relaxing with my girlfriend Emily
- Last traffic ticket I got was… 4 years ago for speeding on my way to work!
- My favorite animal is… A goat….weird right? I just think they’re hilarious to watch and listen to
- If I were any animated Disney character I would be… HERCULES!
SjC – What is your goal in life?
Tyler – My goal is to be the best bodybuilder I can be, be a great husband, and be financially stable. As many can understand bodybuilding is an expensive sport. All of the protein, supplements and memberships tend to put holes in your wallet. I want to be able to live comfortably, pay all of my bills and still afford to strive to be the best in my bodybuilding path.
SjC – What is your philosophy in life?
Tyler – When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you will be successful. This quote means a lot to me. Aside from bodybuilding, you can relate this to other aspects of life as well. In short, if you want something YOU have to go get it. You have to WANT it.
SjC – What are your most proud accomplishments?
Tyler – Winning the junior class and taking 5th in the heavyweight division of the 2012 Lehigh Valley Bodybuilding Championship.
SjC – Who are you closest friends and why they are so important in your life ?
Tyler – Emily Parese, my girlfriend and my rock. She’s been with me through such highs and lows. She is truly an amazing person who has supported me ENTIRELY during transformation into a “decent” bodybuilder.
Parese family, Emily’s family (Deb, David, Drew, Poppy, Gram) has truly been amazing to me. Because of things that have happened emotionally with my own family, I reached out to them for support when things were at their worst. I am so thankful to have the entire Parese family in my life.
Mike Pence, my friend and someone I truly look up to. When I first joined LA Fitness in Pottstown, PA I remember seeing Mike and a partner and saying “Wow, I bet they are bodybuilders, I want to look like that”; eventually we became great friends and im thankful for all of his support.
Dustin Mitchell, we have grown as friends as he endeavored into his first bodybuilding conquest. I helped him thru some aspects of his preparations, as he is helping me. After every time I see him at the gym he says “if you need anything, call me.” That’s a true friend. Read his story here.
Kevin Perrine, a 41 year old shredded monster. This guy has made such an amazing transformation from being bottom of his class to being a serious contender for a title. I am so proud of him for doing this at his age (not that he is old lol). Kevin has been a father figure for me through my beginning years inside and outside of bodybuilding.
Mitch Miller, a great guy who I have recently hooked up with. He has been extremely supportive through my preparations this year.
Ryan Roth, young up and coming bodybuilder looking to compete at teen nationals. He has great potential and is a great friend. Another type of guy that will ask me if I need anything when he sees me.
Chris Katkowski, he has been with me 5 years ago lifting in my garage and driveway, to now at la fitness supporting me through my current prep. I know he will always have my back .
Nicole Taylor, my boss at Susquehanna Bank. She came to my work during a transitional period and I am so thankful to work with someone like her. She says daily how much she appreciates my dedication to the sport and my way of life. I know I have inspired her to strive for fitness goals; and I truly hope she knows just how much her being proud of me means.
SjC – What is your 5 year goal?
Tyler – Be competing at the national level as a bodybuilder, eyeing my pro card. Hopefully by that point I would have obtained a sponsorship to help with the bodybuilding lifestyle. I also would like to find myself financially stable enough to have a client base for contest prep consulting, and well as personal training to fill the place of my full time job.
SjC – What makes you happy?
Tyler – It makes me happy when I make people proud to be associated with me. I struggled for a while with not feeling worth of my immediate family. Without going into extreme detail, I felt depressed, and like nothing I could do would ever be good enough to have them say “great job!”. Those are some words I rarely heard growing up. So making people proud and doing things I can be proud of myself for are a big deal for me.
SjC – You wanted to share you recent Lehigh Valley contest behind to scene, care to let readers in on this?
Tyler – I would like to give a recap of my most recent contest and the preparations that went into it.
To say the least, the last 5 months have been very stressful. I hired a big name trainer to help guide me thru the crucial preparations for the PA State Championship. Things went well for the first half of the prep; however that soon began to change. At the halfway mark I began to worry about my conditioning leading up to the contest. I certainly was not out of shape; to be honest the average person would be jealous of the look I was achieving. But when one understands what is necessary to step onto the bodybuilding stage that envy begins to fade. Continuing on my prep; I started to express my worry to my trainer. As he should, he assured me things would be fine; however nothing changed, and progress slowed. As the last few weeks rolled around I began to get looks from fellow fitness competitors around my area and received questions and a lot of doubt. Needless to say, my mind was a wreck; those who know the sport they would also know that your mind is your most powerful tool. My tool was broken.
During the last few weeks of the prep, I checked in as normal; but suddenly there was no answer from my coach. During my frustration I panicked and found someone who I trusted could at least make me look better than I did at the current time; to which he did accomplish, however we both agreed that the damage had been done. My prep was wasted.
During my prep I lost too much muscle to be competitive, and because of the way the diet was set up I also was not nearly conditioned enough. It’s what a bodybuilder with potential would call a nightmare.
At the 2013 Pa State Championship I entered 3 classes, in which I placed 2nd, 3rd, 4th. To many these seem like great placings! What am I so worked up about? Well this was a smaller show, meaning there were not as many competitors as one who loves the sport and wishes growth upon it would hope. Also, as someone who expects the world out of himself, this was a major disappointment.
When you are in line during prejudging, more than likely they work from the inside out. Meaning if you are in the middle, your placing would in turn be higher, further to the outside and you’d be looking at a lower placing. (more than likely!!!)
Now I know this may be clique to say in the competitive fitness community; but let me just say this. Being moved to the outside of the call outs was truly the worst feeling in my life. The thought I feared the most over the last 5 months was realized as reality. I truly NEVER want to feel that way again; ever.
The current game plan is to spend time learning myself. Learning my body and what it needs to ensure I take it to the fullest of its potential. I don’t plan on competing for another two years; hopefully making my way onto the stage again in the spring of 2015. I need to take necessary time in order to grow into my frame. As well as take the time to slow down my life, and enjoy it. I put my closest friends and loved ones thru hell during the last few months because of the stress of preparing for a contest MULTIPLIED by the depression slowly sinking in as I realized I was not where I should have been physically.
Special thanks goes out to my girlfriend Emily, who stuck by me during every step of the preparations. She was truly my rock, if I was not at the gym I was enjoying time away from it with her as I could. I hope to make it up to her in the next few years before again embarking on another stressful journey to the stage; this time to conquer it.
Also my training partner Mike; being selfish I went my own way with training and left him out to dry so to speak during my prep. Already reunited, we have been crushing the weights and will continue to do so all thru HIS prep for April 2014, and thru the following training sessions.
SjC – I know you are a fan of Dana Linn Bailey and Rob Bailey from Mt. Penn, PA. I believe weekend of Sept 26th ~ 29th is the Mr. Olympia contest where Dana Linn Bailey is going to compete. Are you trying to follow their legacy?
Tyler – I am fully aware of their story in that both have created their own enterprise per se. Rob has his clothing line to auto shop and he even recorded his own music album. This cat is a beast and I respect what they have done. However, I have my own story line to follow. I am only 21 and I have a clear goal in life. I know with support from my number #1 fan and my love of life Emily, I know I am on the right path. I love what I do and after watching the latest bodybuilding movie “Generation Iron”, I am even more determined to fight off the pain to becoming glorious champion from Birdsboro, PA.
“Birdsboro was named for ironmaker William Bird, who established a forge on Hay Creek about 1740. His son Marcus founded Hopewell Furnace in 1771, which was the largest domestic producer of iron by the time of the American Revolution.” – Wiki
What is so “ironic” about Birdsboro, PA is that, it will continue to produce “iron” worker/lifter in Tyler Herz, who will be our next champion bodybuilder. He has the “ironclad” unstoppable attitude. You heard it here first. – SjC